It can be hard to define how you feel about someone, especially if the relationship is moving quickly. Getting to know someone through online dating, hanging out for weeks or even months and ‘talking about it’ isn’t always easy because talking doesn’t mean you’ll come to any agreements. One of the problems with waiting until […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Define the relationship"
As promised, here are some tips to make sure you’re doing enough, but not too much during your first phone call or meeting with them (or the first few times). There is no need for fancy catchphrases. You can talk about anything that feels natural and let the conversation flow organically. DO: Make plans sooner […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Meet up as soon as you feel comfortable"
What do you want from dating? When people start using dating apps, they’re usually looking for one of three things: a relationship, casual dating, or something else. Some people don’t really know what they want and just hope that the right situation will present itself when they meet someone special. Others have their hearts set […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Be honest and transparent"
Why did you sign up for a dating app? To find someone to date, of course. And if you’re anything like the average person, then that means that one out of every four or five people you end up chatting with is going to pique your interest enough to want to meet IRL (in real […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Don’t bite off more than you can chew"
On OkCupid, we use an algorithm to determine compatibility. It’s wrong as much as it’s right and sometimes people who would be a good match don’t show up as such. However, there are times when two people could be very compatible but one person is shown as incompatible. There’s not anything we can do about […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Don’t bother with people who aren’t interested in you"
Writing a killer first message is hard work. I’m talking, like, climb Mount Everest-hard. First impressions matter! The opener you choose can make or break the interaction. In fact, researchers at eHarmony found that an awesome opener can increase your odds of getting a response by 17%…pretty big margin, right? But what’s worse than not […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Write an interesting opener"
If you’re still staring at the blank page trying to figure out what to write in your online dating profile, you might be tempted to copy and paste a list of facts about yourself. Don’t do it! It will make you sound like a robot. No one wants to date a robot (or any kind […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Use clear photos of your face, ideally smiling"
Your goal is to attract someone who you’d like as a potential love interest, so it’s important that your profile speaks to the type of person you’re looking for. “People tend to write their profiles with a general audience in mind because they want a certain number of matches,” Milrad says. But if you want […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Write a profile that mirrors what you want"
We live in such a busy world, and the internet has made so many things easier for us, which is why online dating works so well. We can connect with tons of people we would never have access to otherwise. However, if we’re not careful, we can end up wasting a lot of time swiping […]Continue reading "Online Dating Rules: Know what you want"