Online Dating Rules: Use clear photos of your face, ideally smiling

If you’re still staring at the blank page trying to figure out what to write in your online dating profile, you might be tempted to copy and paste a list of facts about yourself.

Don’t do it! It will make you sound like a robot. No one wants to date a robot (or any kind of object). You want someone who can relate to your life experiences, who gets that you couldn’t go on that conference call because your mom was in town and she had been asking for years when she could finally meet Grandma. Your potential match is going to laugh with you over the sad saga of bad dates #543-#874, not at some cold hard facts.

If you really have trouble interviewing yourself, try asking your friends what they know about you. The trick is to look for the storytelling in their answers, and then include some of that in your profile.

It might sound like this:

“I’ve lived in New York City my whole life. I’m a Pilates instructor by day; by night, I’m usually at comedy shows or writing standup material.”

You can also use these sample interview questions (answers not included).

Sample Questions:

What was your favorite toy growing up? What’s your go-to drink order when you’re out with friends? Who makes you laugh the hardest? What’s one thing that never fails to put a smile on your face? If you could eat dinner with anyone living or dead, who would it be? If you could have one superpower, what would it be and why?

There are all sorts of online dating tips floating around. Here’s another: Use clear photos of your face (ideally smiling), not group shots where it’s not clear which person is you. It may seem like common sense, but everyone can use a reminder now and then. Don’t make the first photo a group shot where it’s not clear which person is you.

What else would you add to this list? And what other online dating rules do you always follow? Let us know in the comments below!

Background information: If you want someone to see your profile, make sure some of it is visible in the photos. Group shots without some identifying feature (a face, body type, tattoo or clothing) can make it harder for people to figure out which one is you and might dissuade them from reading your profile. Additionally, we know we’re repeating ourselves on this tip but smiling photos tend to appeal to most people. It makes you seem approachable and fun.

Be careful not to misrepresent yourself though by only showing off-the-charts happiness—or sadness—in all your photos. Showing a variety of emotions will help potential matches get a fuller sense of who you are as a person.

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Also make sure you pick photos where you can see your face and body (or tattoos or distinguishing characteristics) clearly . You don’t need to be carrying a gun or wearing a thong, but we think most people would prefer not to date someone whose likeness they can’t discern.

This is an example of what your profile should look like:

Photo Credit: Zitona

Smiling photos tend to appeal to most people—it makes you seem approachable and fun. It’s good to have a variety of photos of yourself on your dating profile. Make sure your face is clearly visible, and don’t make the first photo a group shot where it’s not clear which person is you.

If possible, showcase some of your personality in the photos too: a shot of you laughing, a shot of you outdoors if you love nature, or a shot of you in PJs with a decaf coffee if that’s your ideal Friday night.

And here’s an example of what your profile should not look like:

Photo Credit: Zitona

Make sure your face is clearly visible (not everyone can be blessed with such stunning beauty). If his smile isn’t available for viewing in this photo because he’s wearing sunglasses and/or has his hand in front of his face blocking half his features, this photo may not be the best choice for a profile picture.

If possible, showcase some of your personality in the photos too: a shot of you laughing, a shot of you outdoors if you love nature, or a shot of you in PJs with a decaf coffee if that’s your ideal Friday night.

In addition to all that, don’t forget to check out these tips from our friends at Match : Four Easy Ways You Can Improve Your Profile Photos How To Create A Dating Profile That Will Get You Laid In 3 Steps How To Make Your Photos Pop On Online Dating Sites And here are 10 more online dating rules we think everyone should follow .


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